Uhmmm.. Im no Relationship counselor, but I know how to run a relationship.. Not just keep it running.. Keep it awesome! ( haha really now? lols ) We all want a perfect kind of relationship but you know for sure that perfect relationships dont exist. We all grew up with the whole fairy tale-like BS, the Prince – Princess sort of love? Anyone? but in real life, stories like that hardly exist. You see a lot of people completely happy and in love with each other , but the real situation is, they do have conflicts some times. There are just a few things though that a couple can do to make it almost perfect and keep the relationship at bay.

Its true that when you are in a relationship, you learn a lot of stuff.. and these are things Ive learned along the way. And guess what.. Im soooo in the mood to write them down, like right now… Ü

Let me start..

Dont ever make your partner feel that you are NEEDY – its a turn off. This usually happens to girls, but this could happen to a lot of guys too. A little jealousy over somethin or someone is cute, but if its causing too much conflict between you guys, or your boyfriend thinks youre an instant total freak when he mentions a name of an opposite sex.. is ofcourse . NOT healthy.. ( On top of that.. NOT sexy.. )

Wouldnt hurt to acknowledge? – is somethin I always do. And it works. Im not sayin you make “bola” with your bf/gf. Im just sayin if you have the opportunity to tell him/her how great he/she is, go say it. Its natural for humans to want to be recognized for somethin they did, they wear or whatever ( I want to recognized? I mean… like who doesnt? ). And the best person who should notice the good stuff is YOU. Like when my bf wore somethin and looks really neat on him I’d tease him, say ” Babe, you look reaally hot on that shirt “. ( Well I kinda exaggerate it .. nahh kidding! haha ) but seriously that simple phrase could go a loooong way.

Also my advise to ladies , this is as per my observation. Guys love girls who are strong willed and independent . Nothin beats a girl who draws attention with her charm, but you also have to understand that guys, regardless of how independent of a girl you are still wants to feel stronger over you, and that’s what they are supposed to be in the first place, to be stronger than women. ( That’s part of a man’s composition as well, some ego, be the alpha ). You can maintain that strong personality, but you dont need to outshine the guy , make him feel that he can take care of you, besides, that is all that we gals wanted right? I guess Im lucky enough, I found a guy who wants to take charge of everythin. Although there are things that I’d rather do on my own, but as long as he is there I cant really expect to do it my way , because he would want to make sure first that everythin will be alright ( well, aside from the fact that he knows I am clumsy.. so there, I guess thats pretty much one reason too lol ) But what Im tryin to say is, if the guy truly cares for you, let him do it.

Nagging is dangerous to your health and to the love of your life- well yea?like literally. Nagging makes your stress level up and thats not a good thing. But if you have a bf/gf that really sucks and you cant help but really nag to your soul’s content, well I’d say… Im sorry Hon. Give your self a break and look at the bigger picture instead of pickin on petty details ( e.g, bf/gf failed to text or call you and you went wild like Godzilla ). Whatever the situation is, whatever the reason for getting mad is, look at it as an adult and move on from there. Nagging is a serious thing and Ive seen soo many of my couple friends break apart because of this.

So there.. Ive remembered them one by one so I thought of sharing them all to you. Atleast, if you realized you have one of those mistakes , you could fix them all together and keep a great relationship last.

Mmmmkay.. Im totally stayin at home and totally not workin ! Mad? no, im just sayin.. Coz its rainin  forever  and the weather’s too cold. Tell me, who would want to work on a weather like this? And tell me? Who doesnt love curling up in bed, watchin your favorite movies, and forget you have a whole lot of errands to do. Yays, this weather is gonna make me jobless for realz.

Anyway, I just wanna share this photo taken by my boyfriend the  other day ( and I modified it, with the intent to scare him lol ) because we were watchin movies the entire week in his room , and we happen to watch the “Shutter’s” trailer ( You know that Asian horror movie in 2008 with the fuhhkin scary girl  just randomly appearing and was sittin on the guy’s shoulder by the end the film. FFFF!!!).

( But I lost the “scare-feel” coz some Youtube comments are too funny for words. I read one comment about the scene when the guy was on his bed in a really dark room, and the ghost of the dead girl showed up starin at him , and he was terrified. And then the ghost girl disappeared, then for some reason, the guy went lookin for the ghost girl under his bed. ( and then we realized, WTF? why would he go searchin for the girl under his bed? hahaha like really?

Im not makin a review.. Just happen to notice some silly movie flaws. LOL

And then over the weekend. We watched Harry Potter.

And I hate that Harry broke the Elderly wand.. ( Well he did it on purpose , but mmmmkay fineee. We still both think ” that was gay” couldve kept it or somethin , lol )

Anyway. The picture above is my whitelady pic. I love it because Im smiling. I have a lot of pictures over the week. ( My boyfriend Barbs being my photographer, and he is not complaining hahahah.

The one above is a totally-relaxed Joan and one of my favorite, except for the clutters in the background which I tried to hide but still looked obvious (and my hair is messy I know, ive been told hundreds of times ). I love rainy days. Best time and reasons to get lazy. )

• Think of the last time you were really angry?

… I dont know.. I dont normally get mad .. :/

• You are walking down the street . There is a dog drowning in the canal on the side of the street. Your boss has told you if you are late one more time you get fired. What do you do?

I will save the dog and still come to work. If my boss confronts me and tell me Im fired, I’ll bravely face him and tell him ” Fine , you can fire me. But I hope you understand that the only reason Im late its coz SOMEONE is dying.. “

• You are at the doctor’s office and she has just informed you that you have approximately one month to live? a.) Do you tell anyone/everyone you are going to die? b. ) What do you do with your remaining days? c.) Would you be afraid ?

a. ) Yes.. I will make it known that Im dying in a month!! b. ) I’ll spend all crazy time with the people I love and the people I hate.  c. ) Like duhh? would you get excited to die? Afraid coz its like leaving everything behind and realizing there’s no turning back.

• You can have one of the following two things: TRUST/LOVE?

Trust.. Coz Love evolves from there.

• What would be harder for you, to tell someone you love them or that you do not love them back?

“Hey .. I love you”..

“Mmmkay.. thanks!  ”

Tell me thats not awkward?

• Excluding romantic love, when was the last time you told someone you loved them?

                      Last week. I told my mom!

• If you could make anyone in the room your servant for a day , who would it be and what would you make them do?

My reeeeally rude and reaally fat teacher in college. :/ I’ll ask her to dance that silly song she asked us to dance before.

• Have you ever peed in the shower?

HAHAHAHAHHAHA…uhmmmm.. ( No?)

• Are you old-fashioned?

 Sometimess..

• Your best friend dies? What would you do?

Cry to the top of my lungs.. I will never forget that crazy friend of mine.